A father wrote his kid 14 things to always remember.

I'm 31, which means I'm at the age where a lot of my friends are starting to have kids. I know they'll become wonderful adults because the parents they have will guide them well. People around my age think a lot about future and family, and writer Evan Porter just went through it, although the future came sooner rather than later. When I found out, I was holding a six-pack of beer. “I'm pregnant," she said. Words I knew would be coming one day, but not this soon. I always pictured hearing them on a sunny front porch, wind gently rocking a wooden swing back and forth. And there'd be music. Something upbeat and hopeful. I never thought I'd hear those words standing in the doorway of our dark, half-packed apartment, weary from a long day. My wife, Sarah, eyes puffy and mascara-soaked from her own crappy day, and then again from crying tears of joy, holding not one, but two pregnancy tests as proof. My first thought was that we were about to miss our fantasy football draft. My second thought was to open a beer. My third thought was, “I can't believe those were my first two thoughts." It takes a moment like that to realize how woefully unprepared you are to be responsible for another human being. How terrifying it all is. And I'm not talking about waking up in the middle of the night to sooth a crying baby. I'm not talking about changing a dirty diaper or saying goodbye to your “raucous" social life (Sarah and I watch, on average, ten thousand hours of TV every night; so, that shipped sailed a while ago). I'm talking about when your child learns to talk and what you say to him or her actually matters. When you have to start really thinking about how you want to raise them. What you'll tell them when they get picked on at school. What you'll say when they take a philosophical stand against the concept of homework. It makes you question your values. Or wonder if you even have values to question. And this line of thinking has led me to believe that I am already a terrible father. Because when I think about the things I want to instill in our first child, I realize that I embody exactly none of them. But here they are, anyway: 1) I'll say, not everyone has to like you. Speak your mind when you know you're right. Tell friends the truth even when they don't want to hear it. Don't just nod and “see both sides" and give pity laughs to people who make bad jokes. 2) I'll say, work hard in school. Not so you can make money and not for the bragging rights, but because if you don't, one day you'll look back and wish you'd made yourself proud. 3) I'll say, clean your room. Do you see this 6-inch pile of dirty clothes next to my bed? It makes me feel horrible every time I look at it. You'd be surprised how accomplished seeing your bedroom floor can make you feel. 4) I'll say, always finish what you started. There's a reason I can only teach you to be “pretty good", and not great, at guitar, or photography, or card tricks, or any number of things I picked up and abandoned. If you have a talent for something, don't ever waste it. 5) I'll say, don't wait so long to get comfortable in your own skin. Phases are great and all when you're a teenager, but there's a fine line between exploring things and getting caught up in fads. Don't ever feel like you need to fit into a mold or a category to be accepted. 6) I'll say, take care of your body, because you only get one. Floss every day. And don't drink so much soda and Red Bull. You can't ever undo the cavities they'll give you. 7) I'll say, force yourself to experience new things. I know that people who studied abroad in college are obnoxious, but I don't care; you should do it. Because when they're yammering on about their summer in Madrid, you'll roll your eyes but you'll really just be jealous that you spent your summer watching TV. 8) I'll say, don't get so uncomfortable around homeless people. They're not going to rob you. Treat them with respect. Buy them a sandwich if you can. Give to charity often. You'll always have a few bucks to spare. 9) I'll say, pay attention to the news and politics. Don't spend all your time on social media and TV and movies and sports. Devote your attention to things that actually matter. Be informed and well read. Don't ever be left out of conversations about current events. 10) I'll say, be ruthless. Don't go with the flow. Find something you want and put in the work to become exceptional. So many people dream big, but they're afraid to sit down and do the work. Don't be one of them. 11) I'll say, don't text and drive. Seriously. There's nothing that can't wait. I mean it. 12) I'll say, put your family first, above everything. When they need you, be there. Don't ask questions. Don't let being tired from work become an excuse. They're all you have. 13) I'll say, don't ever wish you were anything or anyone else. Embrace your flaws, because everyone has them. 14) And I'll say, if you fall short of anything, even everything on this list, that's alright. I'll still love you. I'll always love you. People keep asking me if I'm scared. And I guess — even in light of everything I said above — the answer is no. I know that there'll be times when I have no idea what to do with this kid. When I reach into my bag of morals and values and come up empty. And for times like that, I'll look to my wife. I'll remember how, standing in our dark, half-packed apartment, on one of the most important nights of our life, she put the pregnancy tests down on the table, smiled, and said: “Of course we're still doing the fantasy draft." A small reminder of why we fell in love in the first place. What we've created together didn't happen in spite of our flaws. It happened because of them. And knowing that, there's really nothing to be scared of. Source: Originally posted on Medium by Evan Porter; 6/15/15.